This Tuesday, I am telling you all about a friendship that changed my life!
Okay, so this picture of Morgan and I, is from high school and if there were background music playing for this blog post, it would be “True Friend” by Miley Cyrus because duh, that was our jam growing up!
This girl and I have been through everything together. Seriously, EVERYTHING! With that being said, I am here to tell you that our friendship has not always been perfect.
Well, it all started back in junior high. We met and we instantly became BFF. Over our high school years and the first couple years of college, we never missed a beat.
We have laughed together til we cried, we have been through all of the upsets of life together, everything! Anyone from our small little town knew that you didn’t see one of us without the other growing up.
I remember we would ride around in the car on Friday nights, with the top of her mustang convertible down just talking about life: school, boys, the future, what we were going to do on Saturday, and where we saw ourselves in ten years.
Literally, we spent holidays together. I was the “adopted” Stewart in her family and I was always there for Christmas with the Stewart’s. She spent equal amount of time at my house. My papaw had a nickname for her “Captain Morgan” after some pirate? I don’t even know! If you know papaw, then you’ll understand!
I won’t even name some of the embarrassing things that have happened to us including breaking a swing, breaking driveways (don’t ask), catching stuff on fire, wheww!!
Well, what went wrong? Fast forward to the middle of 2013!! We made it through our first couple years of college still BFF. We roomed together for a semester at SMC, she transferred to Winthrop, I finished at SMC, then I transferred to USCU. All the while, still super close!
2013.. things got fuzzy! I’m not even sure what happened. We didn’t have an argument.. I guess you can say life got busy and we started going our separate ways. Things like that happen to everyone but for us.. it was just weird! We were more like family than friends and this was just not part of the plan.
I’d like to say that we finally met up and had lunch and our friendship was back to normal but that was not the case. We saw each other several times after 2013. We tried meeting up for dinner, it was weird. We saw each other at a birthday party and didn’t speak. We tried talking via text and I’m sure said things that hurt each others feelings in the heat of the moment. Things were just not the same.
We can both be pretty strong willed at times. So maybe that has something to do with it? Maybe we were too worried things would never be “normal” again?
So what happened next? We both got engaged, got married, and we missed each others weddings. The sad truth.
Well one may think that’s enough damage to say bye to that friendship for good.
I mean.. when I would go home to Clover, people were more concerned about what happened to our friendship than they were anything going on in my life. I remember walking into a pizza place in town, and someone saying, “Woah! You’re all grown up without Morgan. Are y’all still not friends?”
Well fast forward to January of this year! We started a random conversation through snap chat and we finally met up for the first time in years at Starbucks and we had a 3 hour conversation and we could have talked for 3 more hours!! We had 3 1/2 years worth of stuff to talk about!
I remember praying on the way to Starbucks that God would allow our friendship to be the way it use to be! Y’all it is just not worth it to lose a friendship that has made a positive impact on your life, no matter how long it has been.
And that is why I wrote this blog post.. to tell you that if you are like either of us, and you have a friendship out there that needs to be mended, do it! Pick up the phone and call, text, or snap chat!! LOL!
I believe true friendship is this! We mess up because we are human but you care enough to make things right no matter what!
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” Matthew 5:9
God calls us to make peace with people. Even if you are mad over something silly, think about how God forgives all of our wrongs, we should be able to see the good in people, like God sees in us.
We may have missed out on the past 3 1/2 years and each others weddings, but that is nothing in the light of eternity! We are not missing out on the future!!
I realize we need some updated photos!